About

What is The Cúm Cult?

A safety tool with a community attached. Or a community that grew its own safety tool.

It started as a women-led play community on Lovense Bond. It's now also a safety checker, a nomination system, shared blocklists, and AI-assisted moderation summaries, because the fun only stays fun when everyone's safe.

Why It Exists

We didn't set out to build software. We set out to get guys with toys off.

Then the women got together, and the thing we didn't plan for happened: a space to talk about kink, toys, bodies and sex without shame, and without it being read as an invitation. That's rarer than it should be.

Everything since (the Discord, the blocklist, the checker, the summaries) grew from one thing. We wanted to protect that after it existed.

Our Story

Let's gather around the fireside and let your Cult Leader tell you a story...

It all started in January 2026.

I ended up on Bond by accident. There were redundancy rumours at my old job, and the women in the office joked we should all go start OF. I remembered I'd made one back in 2021 during the three days they banned adult content, then abandoned it immediately when they reversed it. I went to check on it and found I had over a hundred subscribers and had apparently made some money I didn't know about.

So I started having fun with it. Sexted with people. Made some audios. Posted thirst traps with zero nudity that somehow performed well. I didn't care about the money, I was just having fun being sexy. Eventually I was doing it all for free because that was more fun anyway and I felt too guilty to accept money. And then I had an idea that in hindsight was unhinged but made complete sense to me at the time: I wanted to program a toy to react to my heart rate while I played Dead by Daylight. The game raises your heart rate, your heart rate controls the toy, your nervous system becomes the controller. I got a Ferri. I found Bond. I got completely distracted from everything else and became a Bond dweller. That's the whole story.

The cult came later.

March 22nd. I posted a women-only recruitment post. The goal, as stated: get guys with toys off. The actual goal: find the people on this app who came here for the right reasons and make as many people cum as possible together. I said I was starting a ~~group~~ cult. I was not joking.

We are The Cùm Cult. Our government name is The Control Room.

It started as a practical problem we wanted to solve. The Roulette P2P matching on Bond is rough, quality men with toys getting lost in a sea of people who downloaded the app thinking it was Tinder. We wanted to fix that. And then we thought: why just men? Why not everyone? So we built something inclusive from the start.

After a couple of incidents we realised pretty quickly that not everyone is compatible with what we're building. So we got selective. The community you see now is the result of that.

March 25th. First raid. Eight women, one hour, 300+ comments. Coordinated group sessions where multiple women simultaneously control the Lovense toys of the men we select. We pick. You don't. One person made the blocklist. Three made the allowlist. One man had an exceptionally good evening as the Chosen Sacrifice. It went better than we had any right to expect.

What most people on Bond don't see is what's underneath. The Control Room has a full internal structure: verified membership, a code of conduct, a consent framework with actual tools built into it, colour-coded stickers and an anonymous check-in command so nobody has to find words mid-scene. A toy guide. A blocklist and allowlist maintained across the group. A how-to for new members. We've expanded to Discord, where we have verified members across genders, formal rules, and a community that's been quietly growing.

This was built from scratch, by a feral gooner girlie with a dream and a cummunity that shared that dream with her. All of it while holding down lives, jobs, and in my case a slight Dead by Daylight addiction.

The Timeline

2021	An abandoned OnlyFans account.
2026	Found Bond.
March 22	The Control Room recruitment post.
March 25	The first raid. 8 women, 300+ comments.
March 26	Public debrief. Discord launches.
—	Community moderation begins.
—	Blocklist. Allowlist. Safety Checker.
—	AI summaries.
—	The platform you're on now.

Our Philosophy

No pressure. Only pleasure.

The longer version (consent, boundaries, aftercare, why evidence matters instead of rumours) lives on the Principles page. The short version is the whole version. Nobody here is ever owed your yes.

This is an Independent Community Project

The Cúm Cult is built and run by community members. It is not affiliated with, endorsed by, or operated by Lovense or Bond.

It's free to use, funded by support rather than fees, and funding never touches a moderation decision.

Meet the Founder

Hi, I'm Michelle.

I built all of this (the site, the checker, the bots, and the run of decisions that made the site, the checker and the bots necessary).

I'm a vocalist and producer by background, which mostly meant I knew how to make audio and had to learn everything else as I went.

I'm not a company. I'm one person who got attached to a group of people and started writing code to keep them safe. The engineering is a one-woman team. The community never was. The women, the moderators, and the people who showed up kinda made it what it is.

Looking for my content? It lives over at NextExGirlfriend.